We’re all in this together… let me hear you sing it.

If you are a first time mama you may not have experienced the “mommy wars” yet. The judgement between women on their parenting choices. It happens during pregnancy and it happens time and time again when you are raising your child. But it doesn’t have to. It can end here, with you and I.

As you begin your motherhood journey you should do so with nothing but love and support around you. And that is what you should offer the mothers that come after (and before) you. It is an intensely personal, unbelievably emotional journey that is as individual to each of us as our own personalities. No matter how you birth your baby, no matter how you feed or clothe or teach your child as they grow. No matter if you routine your child or raise them organically. No matter the choices you (and other women) make. If the choice is made with love. It should be supported.

As women we can share information. We can inform. We can show our sisters the choices that are out there. Then let each woman make her own choices. Once a woman has decided, it is OUR responsibility to do one thing and one thing only. To support. Being a mother is an incredible gift, a difficult challenge that is more rewarding than anything anyone has ever done. Ever. No parenting (or birthing) choice can take that blessing away. We all have our own path, each unique, and each and every one of us needs support.

Babies know nothing of hatred or racism. They know not of cruelty or intolerance. Your brand new little babe has never heard of sexism or bigotry, has no idea about homophobia or disrespect.

Your baby knows not of tolerance or acceptance. They know not about empathy or decency or truth.

All your baby knows is love. Unconditional love. For you.

Everything else, they learn from YOU. What sort of teacher are you going to be?

Let’s change the way the world is. Together. Let a global sisterhood begin. Of mothers who protect each others choices. Who stand up for each others right to be individual. To choose love over power. Be the woman you want to go to for support.

Without each other, we have nothing.

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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The Fourth Trimester: Baby basics

The first three months of your newborns life is often referred to as the fourth trimester. This tiny little human being wants you, all day long (and all night long). In fact, they would prefer to be tucked up back inside their little womb home where it was warm and comfy and you were right there, all the time.

There is a lot of advice out there for new mamas. A lot of people telling you what you should do, when babies should sleep and how often. When you should feed. How you should put them to sleep… the advice goes on and on.

But, if you give your newborn a fourth trimester, I assure you – you will both be happier for it! Newborns do three things. They eat, they sleep and they poop. That’s it. They don’t really do anything else at all. Want to simplify your life for a  happy baby and a less stressed, more relaxed mama? Here are some easy hints.

1. Leave scheduling to later (if at all). Let your baby eat, sleep and poop exactly when and where they want to. Don’t stress about creating bad habits.

2. Get a stretchy wrap so that your baby can sleep tucked against your chest all day long if they want to. It’s as close as you can get to recreating the womb and babies LOVE it. It’s like a baby five star hotel with all the trimmings (and boobies).

3. Don’t worry about fancy baby clothes. Babies don’t care. They are super happy (and warm and comfortable) in wondersuits… there is plenty of time for dressing them up… later.

4. If it’s winter or your baby isn’t super stoked about bathtime, do it every few days. It doesn’t have to be every day… it’s not like they are out running around in the mud or anything.

5. Throw away the charts from the hospital when you get home. You don’t need to write down when your baby pees and poo’s. It’s irrelevant. As is keeping track of when they are feeding during the night or how many hours you have slept. It breeds stress. Relax mama!

6. Don’t worry about classes. Newborns don’t need to be socialised or stimulated. They are stimulated by just being awake. Go to your mothers group if you want to… but otherwise, just live your life (with bub in wrap) and you’ll both be happy.

7. Cuddle your baby!! Don’t leave him to cry… he doesn’t get it. He thinks he should still be INSIDE your body.

8. Enjoy him/her. This first three months, the true newborn stage. It goes so, so fast. Before you know it you will have a screaming 10 month old hanging off your leg, biting your toes and hiding pieces of toast in your shirt with their sticky fingers. Cuddle them. Smell that amazing new baby sweetness. Drink it in.

Did I mention don’t stress?? DON’T STRESS!! You’re doing great!

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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“Bouncing back” or Moving forward?

People talk a lot about whether or not they have (or will) bounced back after pregnancy. “Bouncing back” refers to how quickly your body “bounces” from it’s extra pregnancy weight “back” to its former glory. It’s a saying I’m not a fan of. At all. Firstly, there is very little bouncing right after giving birth. Any bouncing causes severe pain in the lady parts and a high probability of peeing your pants. It’s best avoided for a few weeks.

I have never really understood the obsession that our media has with women quickly returning to their pre-baby shape. All of these women splashed across the front cover of the lady magazines at the cash register at Coles who seem to have “bounced” back so successfully… successfully making the lines of less “bouncy” mamas feel terrible just when they need to be positive and feel loved and accepted. Those baby hormones can make a mama crazy!

For me, I wanted to be physically changed by the birth of my child. I had gone through this amazing journey with little Bo. Together, as one. I wanted to be marked by that experience. I wanted my body to show the change that my heart felt. And I was changed. Unbelievably. It had nothing to do with all the extra weight I carried during my pregnancy. I carried 23kg, which was massive on my 5 foot 3 frame. I didn’t want to hang on to the weight (are you crazy!). It had nothing to do with stretchmarks or sagging skin or fuller (then subsequently flatter) boobs… it had more to do with my shape. I wasn’t a girl anymore. I was a woman. I had birthed a child. For me, for my body, it was like the final induction into womanhood. Every fiber of my being was altered by the most monumentous event that I had ever experienced… giving birth to a beautiful, new, human being that I had created. So instead of bouncing back, I moved forward, changed.

You experience an intimacy with your own body and with your baby during pregnancy and birth that is incomparable with any other experience. Your body goes through a transformation, a metamorphosis of sorts that literally creates another living, breathing, thinking human being. It’s phenomenal. Your body, with its extra lumps and little lines and marks isn’t stretched out of shape just waiting to see whether or not it will dutifully bounce back, it’s transformed into a creator.

You are amazing.

To bring women up, to cement the sisterhood that is motherhood and womanhood in our Western world. To love our friends and sisters and mothers and daughters… to offer true support maybe we need to start here… with what we say, and what we expect. And like our changed bodies, move forward, changed, altered and proud.

How do you feel about your changing (or changed) body?

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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The truth after Birth. The good, the bad and the ugly.

There are certain things that NO ONE tells you about the week after you have a baby. I’m not sure why this is, maybe because they don’t want to scare you new mums OR they have blocked the trauma from their lives… the latter is quite possibly more likely. People seem to gloss over it. Oh yeah, after I had Johnny, I was a bit uncomfortable for a week or so but you know, it was AH-MAY-ZING. In movies after the starlet gives birth someone hands them a shiny, all ready chubby, not-at-all-old-man-looking three month old baby and they all go about their lives, tired, sure, but that’s about it.

Reality ladies, it’s not like the movies.

Here are 10 (not all) of the things that people seem to omit when they talk about life after birth. Take a deep breath, it’s better to know and to be PREPARED!

1. Your lady purse (as a dear friend of mine once called her own vagina) may very well be a right mess. Stitches, cuts, swelling, the whole kit and caboodle. I had to have an episiotomy and I tell you what, the week after I was SORE. It hurts to sit down, it hurts to walk, it hurts to move. You are petrified of coughing, sneezing and don’t even get me started on the fear associated with the first poop. Those little frozen ice-packs they give you in hospital are AWESOME. Take some home with you. Sit on a round cushion. Spray in salt water if it helps… do whatever WHATEVER you need to do to make yourself more comfortable. And don’t look in a mirror… it only makes it worse.

2. You will bleed like you have never bled before. People call it a heavy period. It’s not a heavy period. There is some serious blod clotting going on. If you pass big clots in the shower sit down, if they are too big or you feel unusually light headed call a doctor. I was lucky this only went on for a week or two but i have friends who bled for a month or more. They don’t tell you that in baby class do they?

3. You still look pregnant. Seriously. A little tum is an understatement. Except now you have the wobbly guts of a middle aged man. It gets smaller over time. It took me about three weeks to really get rid of that extra fluid and skin that made me look six months pregnant. Be patient. Every day it gets a little smaller… But don’t think you’ll be able to fit into your pre-pregnancy jeans or tops right away. I tried. It was depressing.

4. You may very well hate your husband. Hormones play a HUGE part in this but also as you watch him snoring away next to you in peace you may want to punch him in the face… Try really hard not to count the hours sleep he has had and compare them to your measely moments… it won’t make you feel any better.

5. You will probably cry. A lot. Again, it’s hormones… but if you are feeling like you can’t cope – ask for help. If it feels too hard, talk to your GP or midwife or doula… reach out. There are people who want to help you.

6. You may go bald in places. This is extreme but it does happen. Either way you will loose most of that beautiful thick luxurious hair you grew during your pregnancy. Get used to the hair balls rolling around your house. It takes a long time for this shedding to subside.

7. You still can’t sleep on your stomach. I’m really sorry to break it to you. I know you have been dreaming about it for months. Your gigantor-incredible-hulk-like-boobs will be in the way. It hurts to lay on them whilst they are giant stones. These rock-hard boobs will give you an idea of what it might be like to have implants, they look great under a top but bare they are huge, lumpy and look like the are mere seconds from exploding. Don’t worry, it doesn’t last forever… but you will easily be able to tell if you haven’t fed your baby for a while… your chest will start to scream before the baby does.

8. Just when you think those labour pains are over. They return. With a vengeance. After birth pains are a real thing. As your uterus returns to its pre-baby size the cramping can be intense. No one really tells you this. It can last hours, days or even weeks after birth. It is especially intense when you are breastfeeding. It’s OK. You aren’t dying… your appendix isn’t bursting… just breathe through it.

9. Your top may get wet at the most inappropriate of moments. Every time you hear your baby cry your breasts may start waterfalling. But this is not the only time. You may also just hear another baby cry… on TV, in the shops, at the doctors, filling up petrol… infact, some women are so sensitive that all they have to do is THINK about a baby to set there boobs off. Breast pads are a godsend, get some washable bamboo ones, they will be your best friend.

10. People talk about being exhausted after having a baby. There is no way you can truly get it until you have experienced it. Get as much rest as you can… whenever you can… wherever you can. Take EVERY offer for help, even if you don’t feel like you need it today. You will. Remember, sleep deprivation is used as a form of torture for a reason.

Don’t let this scare you. IT is still the most amazing, awe-inspiring, awesome, beautiful, touching, emotional thing you will ever do… but ladies, it’s good to be realistic some days. Right?

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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Natural induction.

Haven’t you got that baby out of you yet? We are all waiting to meet it!

That is perhaps one of the most annoying things you can say to a pregnant woman who is nearing her due date. It is even worse when you say it to a woman who is overdue. I know, because I was that woman. I was enormous, uncomfortable and two weeks overdue… If looks could kill, there would have been many friends and family members laying in my wake.

If you are over-due, there are some things that you can due to encourage your little human to make their grand entrance. Please don’t try these if you aren’t at your due date yet or without speaking to your health care professional. These are very safe natural induction methods but the best method of induction is nothing at all, just trusting your body, your baby and finding that little bit of patience when you feel like you have none left at all.

We tried lots of different things; I don’t know what if any of them really helped us. There was no direct correlation with anything I did and my labour starting. But there are a few I would totally recommend trying (with the go ahead from your health care provider of course).

Acupuncture was amazing. It didn’t get labour started for me… but who’s to say it didn’t push it a little closer? Who knows? If nothing else lying on that table for an hour every few days with heat on my back and soft music in my ears was a pretty amazing way to spend my time. Being overdue can be really stressful – a bit of natural therapy can really help you slow down and remember what it is that you are about to do and find the calm. Same goes for acupressure which we tried a lot of to.

Castor oil is a bit of a contentious issue. Never take it without talking to someone first. We tried it twice under the close advisement of our doula. Alas, it didn’t work for us… but I know other people have had great success from the treatment.

Sex, spicy food, long walks, climbing stairs (if you still can)… the list goes on. Try whatever you feel comfortable with… none of these things are going to make bub come if he/she isn’t ready… but they might help you get ready and your body get ready… you never know.

The best advice I was given was to breathe. Labour will come, one way or another. You may feel desperate for it now. But try to find a little time TODAY for yourself. Have a hot cup of tea, have a bath (get some help getting out of it though), relax, finish that book. You aren’t waiting for your baby. Your baby is already with you. Enjoy these last few days as one.

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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A mothers shape.

There are few things in the world that can get a woman down like her own body. It’s amazing isn’t it? How the body you live and breathe in every day can be the source of so much stress and angst, literally taking time out from you enjoying your world.

Pregnancy heightens these feelings. Not only is your body overrun with hormones, your cravings are going wild and you are, let’s face it, gaining weight… constantly. It can be hard to look in the mirror and discover chubby cheeks where you once had cheekbones and the day when you can no longer do up your jeans (even though let’s face it, they’ve been uncomfortably tight for a while now) brings literal tears to your eyes. Nothing fits, nothing looks good and god-forbid you bend over in a changing room and catch sight of the bumps on your upper thighs. There is no denying this dramatic change to your body is going to send you into a bit of a tailspin of emotion (and chocolate cake consumption) some days.

It certainly doesn’t help that the media portrays pregnant starlets in all their tight, toned, perfection when the man standing next to you on the elevator just asked if you’re having twins…

But there is something to be said about the beauty of what is a mothers shape something that the media far too often ignores. Something that somehow gets lost along the way. That something is perhaps the biggest thing of all. It’s a transformation, from woman to mother. Now I’m not saying that all mothers are dowdy, lumpy untoned masses of flesh. Not at all. What I’m saying is that if you allow yourself to be transformed, if you respect your body for the incredible journey that it is on and you love the incredible power that it is creating within you… then maybe you can celebrate yourself a little more today – and not beat yourself up for celebrating with chocolate cake.

Pregnancy is not a time for dieting, it is a time for enjoying your body and the incredible thing it can do. Take care of yourself! Eating healthy and getting a good amount of exercise is important at any stage in your life and even more so during pregnancy. Taking good care of your outer body will help you to stave off some of those self-deprecating feelings that society has taught us. Get your hair done, take care of your skin and buy good quality, well-fitting maternity clothes that are comfortable and suit your style. Pregnancy is not the end of you, the woman. But it is the start of you, the mother. Setting good examples for our children starts long before they are born. Teaching children to take care of themselves, to love themselves and to have respect for their own body is such an important lesson, and it comes from you, the parent. Leading by example takes time, and what better time to start than now?

The shape of a mother is not the same as the shape of a woman who has never grown a child inside her. The shape of two mothers is never the same. We are all marked in different ways by each of our pregnancies, these markings may come in the form of weight, stretch marks, extra skin… whatever your markings are, they are yours. Own them. They came from your child. They are proof of the beautiful gift of life you gave to another human being, and there is nothing more precious than that.

Take the time to celebrate your changing body, recognising realistic goals and expectations and having the courage to feel confident in your unique skin. Your body is changing now and will continue to change once your baby is born. Finding the courage to love your changing skin and to feel confident in it is such an important thing.

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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Hospital bag essentials.

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If you’re about to have a baby you have probably spent at least a few (read: countless) hours trawling the web for advice on what to take to the hospital, what to pack, what you might need… and you have probably been met (as I was) with lists that are heavily branded and full of things that let’s face it… you aren’t going to need. Who needs an outfit for “receiving” guests in? You just pushed a baby out of your lady parts… wear whatever WHATEVER you feel comfortable in.

I over packed, I think most mama’s do. Particularly because you have no real idea on the size, shape of your new bub and you want them to have everything that they need.

What you take to hospital depends pretty heavily on a few things. The season. How long you plan to stay in hospital. Your own personal needs (ie. Are you a comfy in trackpants and uggies or a I-don’t feel-human-unless-I-blow-dry-and-wear-mascara kind of girl?). But don’t feel you need to pack one of everything, just in case. You are not venturing to the other end of the world… you will come back from the hospital. Your partner will probably do the trip between home and the hospital a thousand times, you can always get him to bring you something you’ve forgotten. Less is more for now. Hospitals are pretty good at providing stuff that you need (nappies, sanitary pads, baby blankets), make use of them!

There are some things however that you must not forget.

These are:

Snacks. I don’t know what I would have done if one of my lovely friends didn’t drop off a big bag of yummy, healthy, rejuvenating snacks just after Bo was born. I ate the entire bag in the following 12 hours. Mangoes, crackers, cheeses, fruit juices, isotonic drinks, soft breads, salad, hummus, roasted vegetables, nuts and grainy cereal mixes did me wonders. I had been in labour for almost three days. I had barely eaten at all. I devoured everything and it was THE BEST thing anyone bought me whilst I was in hospital. Make a list of delicious foods that you might want. Either pack them yourself or give the list to a friend with clear instructions Please deliver once baby is born. Drop off with the midwives. Someone will bring it to you, you don’t even have to see your guest at all if you’re not quite ready to share those squishy, warm, heavenly newborn cuddles just yet.

Comfortable soft pants and a stretchy top. You are going to have a serious belly. People don’t talk about the post partum belly. You will look about six or seven months pregnant. For a few weeks (if not more!). Don’t stress yourself out by it. Make sure you have clothes that will fit you well and have easy booby access if you are planning to breastfeed. In fact if you are planning to try breastfeeding then prepare yourself for full booby action for the first 48 hours or more. Get the girls out and get used to it… if you are anything like me after labour you have well and truly checked your dignity at the door and no longer care about being nude in front of a whole room of strangers. You’ll be just fine.

A camera. You just had the world’s most beautiful baby. You’re going to WANT to document this moment.

Your own pillow. Hospital ones are pretty average and make a god-awful noise when you roll over.

Clothes for your baby. The hospital will provide little clothes, you can use them. But you will probably want to dress your own baby up. I did. Don’t worry about fancy baby clothes. They will poop on them. Comfy grow suits that have built in baby gloves and socked feet are best. No point dealing with those miniature socks and gloves if you don’t have to… and you don’t have to.

Toothbrush and toothpaste. Because there is nothing NOTHING worse than furry teeth when you’re already feeling a little fragile and walking like a cowboy.

Books, magazines, movies loaded onto a laptop for those middle of the night-wakeful moments with your new little bundle are all great. Don’t stress if you don’t have much with you. Someone can always bring you what you need. Once you have that baby in your arms… you will realise, all that extra stuff… it’s just stuff… you already have everything you need.

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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Maternity clothes: More than just a muumuu.

You know when you see those old-school pictures of maternity clothes and they make you gag a little? I think they perhaps call this style “vintage” these days. Although I’m a big fan of the vintage clothing movement I am not a big fan of the vintage maternity line. You know what I”m talking about… the house dresses, the curtain like fabric, the muumuu’s with lace edging and little bows in all the wrong places. These sort of clothes scream for you to be called someones “little wife” – which isn’t really my idea of a compliment.

But never fear, maternity clothes aren’t what they used to be. Nowadays they are actually  I am no longer pregnant and I have a look over some maternity catalogues and feel the urge to buy. There are some gorgeous, unique pieces out there that are funky, fashionable and not in the least bit frumpy.

Let’s be honest, I’m a muumuu and flats kind of girl when I’m not pregnant. I like to be comfortable. But even my most fashionable muumuu(sans-bows and lace of course) dresses made me feel like a giant elephant thundering down the street once my belly started to reach it’s peak. Don’t even ask about the thigh rubbing issues, I was full term pregnant in the heat of a Perth summer, it was NOT pleasant.

The solution? Good maternity clothes.

Quality maternity clothes may seem expensive but they are worth it. There is absolutely no doubt in my mind. Being stuck in a village at-the-end-of-the-world for most of my pregnancy I had no access to maternity clothes. I would put on (after many minutes of swearing) my pre-pregnancy jeans and stretch a singlet over my ever bulging tum and then sit online and drool over some of the much more fashionable maternity wear out there. Whilst I was looking like a sweaty bear with my pants held up by an elastic band, I knew that somewhere, out there were women who were wearing ever-so-funky outfits that were actually designed to not only support but FLATTER their ever expanding waistline.

I arrived back in Australia at almost seven months pregnant and sporting a rather large baby belly that had a habit of making an appearance. My first stop on the way home from the airport? A maternity store to get a good pair of pregnancy friendly jeans. Oh the elastic… I was in denim heaven.

I figured out pretty quickly from my birth club sisterhood that maternity wear is not only comfortable it is essential. Yes, it’s true, there are many things that you can still “work” from your pre-pregnancy wardrobe but there are other things, that as much as you think they are working, they are not. Good quality maternity cami’s and singlets are well worth the price and you will wear them after the baby is due. Same goes for any tops, cardigans, jumpers or the like especially seeing as most are designed for ease of access and boob comfort whilst breastfeeding. I have lost all of my pregnancy weight from lugging around my now almost ten kilo ball of drool and giggles and I STILL wear a few of my maternity t-shirts and all of my maternity cami’s because they work and they are awesome quality. Money well spent? I think so.

When shopping for the perfect maternity wardrobe for you stick to your style. Don’t get something just because it will fit your belly and your growing chest… if it’s not YOU, you won’t wear it. Get your every day basics, your jeans, cami’s, t-shirts and jumpers and invest in a couple of special pieces for going out… yes, being pregnant is only for a few months of your life, but those months matter – and it’s no good walking around in a paper bag enormous hessian sack (or dowdy tracksuit) for the entire time. It won’t do anything for your self esteem or your comfort.

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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The most awkward stage of pregnancy.

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There are so many wonderful things about pregnancy. The magic of feeling your little miracle move for the first time. The flutters in your stomach. The kicking against your hand. The recognition. The love. The joy. The anticipation.

And then there is the awkwardness.

There are awkward stages throughout pregnancy. That early phase where YOU think you still fit into your pants (albeit with the help of an elastic band to get them closed) but truly it is time for some maternity wear. Then there is the awkward stage when you are nine months pregnant and you drop something in the store and you cannot for the life of you figure out how to bend over to pick it up without a small foot drilling its way through your rib cage with alarming force.

But the most awkward stage? It’s in the middle.

When you are in the middle of your pregnancy… you are the biggest you have probably been in your whole life. You feel enormous. I felt the size of a house. My swollen belly was impressive. To me. To everyone else I looked like I’d had a few too many beers and a gassy night out. I looked bloated. And even though in the mirror, stark naked, it was obvious that I had a little baby growing in there… fully clothed, I just looked a bit sloppy. And I noticed the questioning stares. People raising an eyebrow, people trying to figure out whether or not I was pregnant or just a little rotund… It didn’t help that I could also be seen devouring everything in site as I walked down the road. Loaves of bread, bags of fruit, blocks of chocolate… may or may not have been devoured at the same time

How to make it through the awkward phase? I ever so subtly (not) spent a lot of time with my hand on my belly, looking maternal. Let’s face it, I probably just looked constipated… but it made me feel better about the whole thing. Best way to truly make it through is just to not worry about it. Who cares what anyone else thinks anyway. You have a gorgeous baby growing in there and soon enough you will be the size of a mini-van and people will be asking you how many babies you have in there – seriously I don’t know one pregnant woman who hasn’t been asked if she’s sure she isn’t carrying twins – no really?!

Enjoy your little bump mama, it’s only little for a little while. Go and spoil yourself with some gorgeous bump flattering maternity clothes. Flaunt your beautiful belly. Join a pregnancy yoga class if for no other reason than seeing that stunning silhouette of your beautiful growing body in fit-wear. And above all, learn to laugh at yourself… trust me, it comes in real handy when you find poop on your foot or a tiny human vomits in your mouth. The best is yet to come!

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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Pregnant for Christmas? How to enjoy the holidays.

 

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Ahh, the holidays. Time for relaxing with family and friends. Right? Well… wrong.

Christmas is undoubtedly the busiest (and often most stressful) time of year. All that so called relaxing is EXHAUSTING. And in the heat of an Australian summer it can be hard work. And that’s when you’re not pregnant.If you find yourself under a bump this holiday season then you may find the minefield of the Australian holiday season a little daunting, or disappointing at the least.

What used to be fun and carefree now seems like a minefield for the pregnant woman. Drinks that can’t be drunk. Seafood that shouldn’t be eaten. Delicious morsels that cause the bile to rise up the back of your throat and leave you burning into the dead of night. Sound good? Perhaps not… but it can be. You can survive the holidays… you can even enjoy them! But to do so, I’d suggest you follow a few simple steps.

Simplify! If you normally travel to see family, get them to come to you (and bring a plate!). If you usually cook a three course meal, do a BBQ instead.

Get lots of rest! Don’t feel guilty about leaving the party for an hours nap or for going to bed early. You aren’t missing anything. Everyone will survive without you. Go lay under the fan or in the A/C with your feet up and enjoy the peace and quiet.

Plan food for you! Write lists of food that is yummy and totally pregnancy friendly. Give these lists to the family and friends who are bringing food to your place. Make sure that you have delicious food that you can eat! Mocktails, sparkling apple juice, alcohol free fruit punch are all awesome, cool and refreshing options that can make you feel like you aren’t missing out on all the good times.

Stay out of the shops. Do your last minute shopping before the last minute. Do it online if you have to. The last thing you need is to be waddling through the shops and have three million people give you the “don’t you dare have that baby here” look.

Accept help. Always. People will offer and you need to grab it with both hands and appreciate everything that you don’t have to do yourself. Don’t try to be superwoman. You are already superwoman and if superwoman was up the duff during the holidays… someone else would totally be driving the invisible plane to the shops for her and she would stay home.

Happy holidays ladies!!! Stay cool!

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Sash Milne is a headstrong freelance writer who marches to the beat of her own drum. This young Aussie mama is all about women’s rights, open minds, laughter and diving headfirst into a life that’s worth living.   You can find her at the popular blog Inked in Colour, where first time parenthood, wanderlust and the path less traveled meet.

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